Does practicing gratitude actually do anything?? Learn the science inside. 🙏🙅

Hello my Gorgeous Magical Friend!

Practicing gratitude has become a buzzword or, in this case, "buzz phrase" found all over the place online, in countless memes, and in every self-help book known to man. 

But do you really know what it is, how to do it, and what it does in your life? 

In this email, you will learn all the science behind practicing gratitude and why it is something that can 100% enhance your life, happiness, and even your health, in miraculous ways. 

Continue reading to get the scoop. 

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The word “gratitude” has a number of different meanings, however, a practical definition is: The appreciation of what is valuable and meaningful to oneself; it is a general state of thankfulness and/or appreciation. 
 

  1. Many studies have shown that consciously focusing on your blessings, rather than what you lack, can have both emotional and interpersonal benefits. One study found that having a grateful outlook not only improves well-being but it also enhances mood creating a positive mood.  
     

  2. A scientist who studied over 1,000 people from ages 8 to 80 found that simply keeping a gratitude journal can have a positive impact on many areas of life with subjects consistently reporting the following benefits: 

Physical

•    Stronger immune systems
•    Less bothered by aches and pains
•    Lower blood pressure
•    Exercise more and take better care of their health
•    Sleep longer and feel more refreshed upon waking

Psychological
•    Higher levels of positive emotions
•    More alert, alive, and awake
•    More joy and pleasure
•    More optimism and happiness

Social
•    More helpful, generous, and compassionate
•    More forgiving
•    More outgoing
•    Feel less lonely and isolated.

Pretty freaking cool right???

All you have to do to receive all of the benefits listed above is list 5-10 things you are grateful for once or twice a day. You can do this in a digital notepad or voice memo app on your phone, or you can write them out by hand in a journal.

Do this consistently and you will see results. 

One thing that always goes on my list is YOU. So incredibly grateful for you and our friendship. 

Hope you have an incredibly grateful day! 

Much Love, 

Steph
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Want to be Happier & More Productive in 2019? Follow These Simple Steps.

Hi Beautiful, 

Happy 2019!

Did you know that a whopping 80% of New Years Resolutions fail by the first week of February? 

The reason so many people fail is usually because their goals are too ambitious...like never eating sugar again, being completely organized, losing 50 pounds, or going to the gym every day. 

These types of goals are just simply too hard for most people to stick to and require too much willpower to sustain. CLICK HERE to watch a video where I explain why willpower alone will never get you to your goals.

So if these big ambitious resolutions don't work, what does?

There are 2 main reasons people make resolutions are:

  1. They want to be happier 

  2. They want to be more productive

Believe it or not, making smaller sustainable changes, is a much better way to increase your productivity and happiness.

So how do you do that?

Keep reading below to find out my 6 Simple Steps to create BIG results in 2019.

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Here are 6 Simple Steps you can use to make 2019 your best year yet. 

Step 1: Clearly Define Your Goals
This step is important because it gives your brain a very specific action to aim for. So for example, instead of giving your diet a complete overhaul (setting yourself up for failure) make the smaller, more specific commitment to drink more water daily. This gives your brain something "bite-sized" to focus on rather than something overwhelming. And since the goal is clearly defined, your brain will know exactly when you have accomplished it. This leads to a boost in self-confidence and self-esteem. 

Step 2: Make Sure Your Goal Is Measurable
So instead of just saying you are going to drink more water daily, give an exact amount of water you will drink. Better yet, you can buy a special container to hold the specific amount of water so you know when you have reached your goal. Measuring is the best way to track your progress and results. It is also yet another way to boost your self-confidence and self-esteem. 

Step 3: Get An Accountability Partner (Or Better Yet, A Coach)
There is so much science showing the benefit of having an accountability partner or coach when it comes to achieving your goals. Accountability can be electronic like an app to track your progress or an alarm to remind you to drink every hour. Even better your accountability can come from a real-life human.

Accountability is so important to success all my coaching packages include unlimited Whatsapp coaching in between sessions so I can make sure I am there to support my clients every single day.

Step 4: Habit Stack For Ease
Find ways to incorporate your new habit into habits you already have. This is also known as “habit stacking.” For example, if you are an avid coffee drinker you can start to drink 20 oz of water in the morning before you have your first cup. Stacking a new habit onto an already well-established one like drinking your morning coffee makes it much easier to stick to the new goal. 

Step 5: Make It Easy On Yourself
The best thing you can do to ensure your success is to remove barriers. So for example, if your goal is to go to the gym at 5 am you can make it easier on yourself by sleeping in your gym clothes and having your shoes, socks, water, and gym bag ready to go by the door. You can also add in barriers to make things easier. For example, you can put your alarm across the room to make a barrier between you and the snooze button. 

Step 6: Delete Soul-Crushers and Debbie Downers (Bring In The Soulmates)
This one is probably the most important step of them all. Just as it is important to declutter your home, closet, and office, it is also important to declutter your life. Are there people in your life who have a tendency to bring you down? It is important to take an inventory of the people in your life and then ask yourself this question, "Who can I count on and who do I need to count out?"

After you determine who makes the cut and who doesn't, then you can figure out who you need to bring into your life to help you achieve your goals. I call these people soulmates. This is why I call my free consultation sessions Soulmate Sessions. These are the people who throw fuel on the fire of your dreams instead of on your fears. 

BONUS STEP:
Download this free positive affirmations track to help drown out all the negativity your brain is flooded with every day. Make sure to listen to it several times a week (daily if possible) and watch your world change. 

….and that’s it!

As you can see, these strategies are small and easy to implement. That also means they are easy to stick to and when it comes to reaching your goals, consistency is key.

The bottom line is, Small Changes = Big Impact! You know what’s cool about that? If you keep applying these 6 simple steps all year long, by the time 2020 rolls around, you’ll be a completely different—and more productive and happier person.

Please let me know which step you like most and how you are implementing them in your life.

Looking forward to hearing all the ways you FLY in 2019 :)

Much Love, 
 

Steph

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Why your beliefs create your reality & how to change them 🙌💥😎

Do you love podcasts and audiobooks as much as I do? If you said yes, then you are going to love this email. 

My boyfriend, Andy Murphy has a podcast called Mindset By Design. Every few weeks we record a podcast together called "Sunday Morning Coffee with Andy and Steph" where we discuss all things mindset over coffee in different locations all over the world. 

Our latest episode (that just went live yesterday) was recorded on a park bench in downtown St. Pete, Fl at the Salvador Dali Museum while we watched 2 dolphins swim and play about 20 feet in front of us. It was so cool!  

In this episode, we dive into the science behind stress and belief and how your beliefs truly create your reality. 

Keep reading to learn more and to listen to the podcast. 

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I give real-life examples of how my personal coaching clients created massive abundance in their lives simply by changing their beliefs.

Andy gives some great tactical examples you can use in order to manage your stress and change your beliefs and, in turn, what shows up in your reality.  

If you'd like to check out episode #217- Stress, Belief and how to change it. (Sunday Morning Coffee) click the links below:

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To listen to more Sunday Morning Coffee Episodes and some of my solo shows click here >>> https://mindsetbydesign.co/category/podcasts/

Hope you enjoy!

Would love to hear what you think. Shoot me an email with some of your takeaways after you listen. :)

Much Love, 

Steph
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My #1 hack to feel confident around anyone, anyplace, anytime.

Hi Gorgeous, 

You know that feeling you get when you go to a networking event or when you are around a bunch of people you don't know?

Like you have to prepare a synopsis of all the amazing things you are doing in business and in life?

I used to feel like this all the time. 

Like I had to be so INTERESTING to be worthy. 

It was like I thought I had to EARN my place in the world. 

This put sooooo much pressure on me when I would go to networking events or just out in public in general. Especially when I had severe social anxiety. 

Now I understand that, in social situations, it is so much better to be INTERESTED rather than INTERESTING. 

Watch the video below or keep reading to understand what I mean. 

When you approach people with a smile and genuine heartfelt interest...in them, what they do, what they love, what their hopes wishes and dreams are...

It also allows the other person to let their light shine. This feels really good to both people. Win/Win!

This also releases the pressure of feeling the need to "perform" or "be on show" by telling everyone about yourself. 

This is the quickest way for you to build massive rapport with people too which is an amazing skill to have in business and in life. 

Finally, it is also important for me to point out that you were BORN WORTHY. You do not have to prove yourself to anyone. 

Simply being there, with the beautiful light and love you bring to the room, is enough to "earn" your place in the world. 

When you bring your full and best self, you are a gift and a prize to everyone you meet. 

Always remember that Goddess. 

Much Love, 

Steph
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What THE NESSIE HUNTER taught me about belief

Meeting the "Nessie Hunter" (I'll get to that in a moment!) really made me think... 

Beliefs are funny things, aren't they?

To be honest, beliefs are actually something I think about a lot.

One of the main features of my coaching is guiding my clients to question their beliefs about what is possible for them in their lives. 

We question beliefs like...

  • I am not good at this or that.

  • I will always be broke.

  • I am not worthy.

  • I am not beautiful.

  • I will always struggle.

  • I am an anxious person.

  • I'm not good enough.

  • I am not smart enough.

  • That will take too long.

  • I don't do well with people.

  • I'm not good on camera.

  • Success is for others

  • I'm too fat, too old, too *fill in the blank*

  • The list goes on and on, and on, and on!

These outdated negative beliefs are what hold people back from greatness in so many ways. The bottom line is that our beliefs create our reality. 

I had a big lesson on the power of belief a few weeks ago in Scotland when I met...

THE NESSIE HUNTER

Watch the video below for the full explanation and to visit Loch Ness from the comfort (and warmth!) of your own home.  

Steve Feltham has been hunting full time for the Loch Ness Monster since 1991. 

That is 27 years!! Talk about dedication!

This guy gave up his whole entire life to live in a dinky RV right on the banks of the freezing cold Loch (see my video to see what this looks like first hand) because his belief in Nessie is so strong. 

Scotland is beautiful and so is Loch Ness, however, living in a tiny RV in this harsh environment is no walk in the park! He has to be freezing and lonely. 

Now, imagine what would be possible in your life if you had unshakable belief and faith in what you are capable of? You'd be unstoppable! 

Now let's flip it. 

What beliefs are you holding onto and putting so much faith and trust in that are actually NOT TRUE AT ALL? 

Are they keeping you stuck in a cold, harsh, lonely environment? 

What if you decided to change your mind?

What if you decided to believe the opposite?

What if you decided to make a different choice?

How would your world change?

If our beliefs create our reality, what reality are you creating?

Pretty interesting food for thought isn't it. :)

My belief in you and what you are capable of is UNSHAKABLE. 

Let's do this QUEEN!

Much Love, 

Steph

I STAY IN CASTLES AND TRAVEL THE WORLD HERE'S HOW YOU CAN TOO

I am back in Chester, England now, but exactly one week ago today I left for Scotland to go on the most amazing adventure. 

To say Scotland is magical is a total understatement. It is an absolute dream.

We spent most of our time in the Highlands, at the very top of the country. This meant I had little to no cell service for most of the trip. 

Which gave me a lot of time to reflect.

I found myself most often reflecting upon how completely different my life is now than it was 3, 5, 10 years ago. 

Talk about a 180-degree shift!! It's actually mindblowing.

Please watch the video below to learn more about my perspective on how my life (HIGH SCHOOL DROP OUT OVER HERE), bank account, business, love life, anxiety levels, and overall happiness have changed for the better... and how you can achieve this too. 

I went from being an anxiety-ridden (too scared to leave my house!), self-conscious, negative, broke, single girl who didn't think she deserved big love and would never accomplish anything to... 

Traveling the world with the love of my life, making my way through airports and train stations with complete ease, owning my own business, working from my laptop helping people live a life they truly love, giving presentations on stages to large groups and to huge companies, all with complete confidence faith and trust. 

Want to know how I did it?

  • I changed my mind about what was possible for me and what I could accomplish in my life. 

  • I changed my beliefs, my thoughts, and my self-talk from negative to positive. 

  • I invited in infinite possibilities.

  • I hired a coach. 

  • I surrounded myself with mentors and high vibe people. 

  • I gave myself permission to evolve and grow.

  • I decided enough was enough, put my foot down, and took major action to change my life. 

Was it easy? No

Was it worth it? 100% YES. 

Is this life available to everyone? I believe with all my heart, it is. 

If I can turn my life around, you can too. I believe this so much I have dedicated my life to helping others live a life they truly love, just like I have. 

Let me give you a quick pep talk Queen... 

  • You can do it.

  • You are worth it.

  • You were meant to receive greatly in all ways. 

  • You are a divine being. 

  • Your beauty is immeasurable. 

  • You were put on this earth to do great things. 

I would go on but I have a tour of a Medieval Cathedral to go on about 10 minutes. ;)
 
My love for you runs deep. 

xoxo,

Steph
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It's My Birthday But YOU Get A Gift!

Even though it is my birthday, YOU are the one who is receiving a present. :)

Watch the 5-minute video below or keep reading to find out what it is. 

To celebrate my 40th birthday I want to gift you with one FREE coaching session added onto any coaching package that I offer. 

So that means, if you attended the 6-week goddess transformation (1 free session) or if you participated in any of my Instagram Challenges (1 free session) with the addition of this 40th birthday present (1 free session) you can redeem up to 3 FREE sessions (added onto any coaching package.)

Pretty cool right?

Please watch the video for a more clear explanation. 

I love you so much and cannot wait to connect with you on a deeper level. 

In order to redeem your gift(s) PLEASE CLICK HERE to book a complimentary Soulmate Session with me. 

This will allow us 60 minutes to determine if coaching with me is a good fit for you. 

The time is now beautiful. 

It is also time for me to board my train.

Wishing so much love and many blessings! 

How to Overcome Social Anxiety

So, you know how there are some people who can walk into a room full of strangers (by themselves!) with full confidence? Able to strike up a conversation with anyone?

While others can hardly say hello to the mailman they've had for 10 years, let alone a room full of strangers.

For the latter, this uncomfortable "shyness" only gets worse in situations where they feel on display or when in group settings, like a workout class or a networking event.

For some people (like me!), this "shyness" can turn into debilitating social anxiety.

Can you believe I couldn't even leave my house at one point?

If the fear of stepping out into social situations is holding you back from doing great things in the world, please know, you are not alone. Far from it. 

The truth is, over 15 million people suffer with social anxiety in the U.S. alone, making it extremely common.

Watch the video below, or keep reading, to hear Steph's story of social anxiety and how she overcame it. 

So what is social anxiety anyway?

People with social anxiety usually experience distress when:

  • They're introduced to new people

  • They feel teased or criticized (which feels as though is happening ALL THE TIME even when it's not.)

  • They're the center of attention (I used to hate this so much!)

  • Being watched while doing something (cringe!)

  • Meeting authority figures or anyone perceived as "important"

  • Most social encounters, especially with strangers

  • Going around the room (or table) in a circle and having to say something (more cringing!)

  • Interpersonal relationships (romantic, business, and friendships can all cause discomfort)

Social anxiety is, in a very small nutshell, the fear of being negatively judged by others.

This perceived judgment (which most of the time IS NOT REAL, watch the video for more on this) leads to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, self-consciousness, embarrassment, humiliation, and sometimes even depression.

Here's the cool part, if I have been able to heal myself of this, you can too. It took my many years to figure out how to get a handle on, it and what to do to combat it. 

Below are the 4 main strategies I used to leave social anxiety in the dust (much more on all of these in the video):

  • Practice self-love and self-worth

    • When you truly love yourself and understand how worthy you are you feel comfortable anyplace, around anyone. YOU ARE A QUEEN. 

  • Release judgments of self AND others

    • The more we judge ourselves and others, the more we feel judged. Period. 

  • Get help

    • Whether it is a therapist or a coach, it is important to get help when the going gets tough. Remember, you are not alone. 

  • Finally understand you have some important gifts to set-forth in the world

    • I truly believe that each and every one of us was brought here to earth for a very specific and divine reason. It is your job to figure out what that is and to then confidently step out into the world and let it rip! (this is my favorite thing to help women do.)

Another cool thing is that listening toPositive Affirmation Trackscan help a ton with all of these things too. 

The bottom line is.... you are supposed to feel comfortable and confident anyplace, anywhere, anytime and around anyone.

If you don't, that just means there are some things you need to take a closer look at. 

If I can do it, you can do it. yay! 

Much Love, 

Steph
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Willpower, confidence, self-worth are like batteries THIS is how you charge them up

Have you ever wondered why some days you have iron-clad willpower, Wonder Woman like confidence, and the self-worth of Oprah, while other days...

Not so much! 

Other days you feel scared, not good enough, wonder what the hell your purpose is, and like you aren't worthy of receiving greatly for your talents and skills. 

In this video, Spiritual Mindset Coach, Stephanie Matos explains the science behind willpower and 5 ways to charge your willpower, self-confidence, and self-worth batteries so you can finally succeed at anything you want in life.

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THE TRUTH BEHIND THE "FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY" LIE

Based on the number of memes I've seen on the internet (millions!) I am guessing you have heard the saying, "Feel the fear and do it anyway." many, many times.

For years I believe this saying was 100% true.

I mean, after living with severe anxiety for over 20 years, the sheer volume of times I had to push through fear in order to do the things I knew I was meant to do like, Facebook Lives, Podcasts, public speaking, Youtube videos, putting on events and leading live guided meditations....

Meant this saying had to be true, right??

Not really.

Watch the video to learn the truth.

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I ran off the stage crying... | HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING

Have you ever been so embarrassed that you wished you could bury your head in the sand like an ostrich? Trust me, I get it!  I felt the exact same way when I was asked to speak in front of a crowd of about 400 people and....  I BOMBED.  Like ran off the stage crying, bombed. In this video I tell you what happened and how I overcame fear and now do public speaking effortlessly. xo

How To Manifest Anything Into Your Life In 3 Simple Steps

Have you ever wondered what MANIFESTING is or how the heck you do it? In this video I give you the 3 super simple steps you can use to manifest ANYTHING into your life.

Overcoming Fear | Is Your Fear Even Real?

While zip-lining in the jungle in Panama I had an epiphany about fear... for most people, the fear that holds them back from greatness isn't real. Is your fear real? Watch this video to find out more.

DIY Pinhole Camera Solar Eclipse Viewer

Here is a tutorial I just filmed to show you how to quickly and easily make a pinhole camera for safe viewing of the total solar eclipse tomorrow! All you'll need is a tape, a box, knife/box cutter, white sheet of paper, tin foil, and a pin or thumb tack. ENJOY!

How to Release Anxiety and Fear | Drum Circle Treasure Island, St Pete Beach

In this video, I get real and raw.  I explain how I woke up with paralyzing anxiety and what I did to raise my vibration and decrease my anxiety and fear. 

Come with me to The Vinoy and The Dali Museum in Downtown St. Pete, Florida

It's VLOG time again! In this video I take you to The VINOY and THE DALI MUSEUM in Downtown St Pete! Get to know Andy Murphy a bit and find out why a change in scenery can improve your creativity and drive as an entrepreneur! Also, hear me say "I LOVE downtown St Pete!" about 100 TIMES! 😂😂😂