So, you know how there are some people who can walk into a room full of strangers (by themselves!) with full confidence? Able to strike up a conversation with anyone?
While others can hardly say hello to the mailman they've had for 10 years, let alone a room full of strangers.
For the latter, this uncomfortable "shyness" only gets worse in situations where they feel on display or when in group settings, like a workout class or a networking event.
For some people (like me!), this "shyness" can turn into debilitating social anxiety.
Can you believe I couldn't even leave my house at one point?
If the fear of stepping out into social situations is holding you back from doing great things in the world, please know, you are not alone. Far from it.
The truth is, over 15 million people suffer with social anxiety in the U.S. alone, making it extremely common.
Watch the video below, or keep reading, to hear Steph's story of social anxiety and how she overcame it.
So what is social anxiety anyway?
People with social anxiety usually experience distress when:
They're introduced to new people
They feel teased or criticized (which feels as though is happening ALL THE TIME even when it's not.)
They're the center of attention (I used to hate this so much!)
Being watched while doing something (cringe!)
Meeting authority figures or anyone perceived as "important"
Most social encounters, especially with strangers
Going around the room (or table) in a circle and having to say something (more cringing!)
Interpersonal relationships (romantic, business, and friendships can all cause discomfort)
Social anxiety is, in a very small nutshell, the fear of being negatively judged by others.
This perceived judgment (which most of the time IS NOT REAL, watch the video for more on this) leads to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, self-consciousness, embarrassment, humiliation, and sometimes even depression.
Here's the cool part, if I have been able to heal myself of this, you can too. It took my many years to figure out how to get a handle on, it and what to do to combat it.
Below are the 4 main strategies I used to leave social anxiety in the dust (much more on all of these in the video):
Practice self-love and self-worth
When you truly love yourself and understand how worthy you are you feel comfortable anyplace, around anyone. YOU ARE A QUEEN.
Release judgments of self AND others
The more we judge ourselves and others, the more we feel judged. Period.
Whether it is a therapist or a coach, it is important to get help when the going gets tough. Remember, you are not alone.
Finally understand you have some important gifts to set-forth in the world
I truly believe that each and every one of us was brought here to earth for a very specific and divine reason. It is your job to figure out what that is and to then confidently step out into the world and let it rip! (this is my favorite thing to help women do.)
Another cool thing is that listening toPositive Affirmation Trackscan help a ton with all of these things too.
The bottom line is.... you are supposed to feel comfortable and confident anyplace, anywhere, anytime and around anyone.
If you don't, that just means there are some things you need to take a closer look at.
If I can do it, you can do it. yay!
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