Why the Law of Attraction isn't Working for You (and How to Fix it) 💫 ✨

Hi My Beauty! 

Happy Tuesday! 

If there is anything about me you should know it is this, even though I am a former science based researcher and much of my coaching is based in hardcore, black and white neuroscience, I am also HELLA spiritual. 

I like to describe my coaching as a mixture of science and magic :) The magic part is what we will be focusing on today. 

The Law of Attraction is a subject that most people have heard of but very few know how to properly execute in their lives. 

If you haven't heard of the Law of Attraction. CLICK HERE to watch a short 5-minute long video I made detailing how it works 

So many times when I meet with new clients they say:

“Stephanie, I learned about the Law of Attraction so I made a vision board, set goals, tried meditating, read a million self-help books, watched The Secret and….. Nothing has happened!” 

And you know what, I completely understand. I have been there soooooo many times in the past. 

There is one main problem getting in the way of people manifesting their dream lives. Here is the truth, the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for about 99% of people because they are out of alignment. 

In a very small nutshell, their conscious mind is not in alignment with their unconscious (or subconscious, I use them interchangeably) mind. 

For the sake of clarity, here are my definitions of the conscious and unconscious mind:

Conscious Mind: This is the logical part of your mind. The part of your mind that you are consciously aware of. What that means is you have to tell this part of your mind what to do. For example, you consciously told your brain to open this email and read it. In other words, it didn’t happen automatically or on autopilot like most of the things we think, believe, and say do. 

Unconscious Mind: This is the part of your mind that runs on autopilot. This is where your beliefs, self-talk, and values live. For example, you do not have to tell yourself, “you know what, today I’d really like to feel stressed and lacking in self-confidence.” We would never consciously tell ourselves something like that but it happens all the time. That is because this is running on autopilot subconsciously as do SO many of the things we do every day. Like showering, brushing our teeth, tieing our shoes, or even driving to work. 

There is so much more (like a lot more) to both of these concepts but these loose definitions will give you a little context to work with for the rest of this article. 

When you align what you do and think consciously (making the vision boards, setting the goals, reading books) with what is running on autopilot subconsciously (Your beliefs about what is actually possible in your life, what you deserve, how worthy you are, and your beliefs about who you are and what you were born to do.) Magic happens. 

When these two parts of your brain are not in sync (which is the case for most people) there is a misalignment in your vibrational energy and, therefore, the Law of Attraction simply cannot and will not work. 

So basically, whatever it is that you want: money, love, a new job, or anything else... it is not enough to write it down, make a vision board, watch youtube videos, read books, meditate, visualize, and wait for it to show up. This is only half the work.

The most important things you can do to create a life that you truly love is to have your conscious mind and the subconscious mind to line up and agree with one another. To have them be in alignment. THIS is the secret sauce. :)

Now you might be wondering, how the heck do I do that?

There are 1,000’s of things you can do to start to create positive shifts in your unconscious mind. Keep reading below to learn 3 simple strategies you can use to manifest more of what you want into your life (and less of what you don’t want!)

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#1 Listen to Positive Affirmation Tracks
Listening to positive affirmation tracks is a super easy thing you can do to rewire the thoughts and beliefs that automatically occur in your subconscious mind. Thoughts like “I am not good, enough, smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough... FILL IN THE BLANK enough.” are holding you back from receiving that which you are wanting to appear in your life.  

Listening to positive affirmation tracks allows you to rewrite and replace these beliefs with positive ones, in turn, raising your vibration (which is another topic we will cover in the Mindset By Design for Her Private Facebook Group.)

Here is something you need to be aware of before you begin listening to or practicing positive affirmations. At first, your brain might doubt what you are listening to is true because many of the positive declarations will go directly against what you believe to be true about yourself for 10, 20, 30, even 40 years. The more and more and more you listen the softer your mindset will become and soon the affirmations will become your actual beliefs. CLICK HERE to download a free, 60 minute long, positive affirmations track.

#2 Set Intentions Daily
Two weeks ago we learned how powerful setting daily intentions are in the blog: Feel More Productive in Coffee Shops? Here’s Why (You can read it by clicking here

In this article, we learned that one of the reasons we feel so much more productive at coffee shops is simply because we set the intention for it to be and so that is exactly what happens.

In the book, The Intention Experiment, by Lynne McTaggart,  William A. Tiller, a professor Stanford University states, “For the last 400 years, an unstated assumption of science is that human intention cannot affect what we call physical reality. Our experimental research of the past decade shows that, for today’s world and under the right conditions, this assumption is no longer correct.”

As you can see, intention setting is very powerful and the best part is, it is easy to implement into your daily routine. Set daily intentions about what you will and won’t allow to run on autopilot in your unconscious mind each day. 
 
Below are some examples of intentions you can set for your day:
-Today I will choose to believe that I was put on this earth to receive greatly. 
-Today I will choose to believe that I am self-confident, capable, and worthy. 
-I am ready willing and able to take divinely guided action towards my dreams. 
-Today I will choose to believe I am strong enough, smart enough, and handle adversity well. 
-Today I will choose to believe that obstacles are actually roadblocks veering me in the right direction. 
-Today I will allow it all to be easy.

#3 Hire a Qualified Coach
While the strategies above will 100% provide you with results over time, the absolute quickest way you can change your subconscious mind in order to become a manifesting machine is to hire a highly qualified mindset coach.  I personally prefer to work with coaches who combined both spiritual tactics with science. (Which I am sure doesn't come as a shock to you. lol)

Here is what I can tell you for sure, what took me 10 years to cultivate in my life can happen for you MUCH quicker with the help of a coach. A coach is essentially a like a sherpa or guide who can help you trek up the mountain or through the jungle way more easily because they have been there before. They know the path and can guide you with the right systems, tools, and techniques. 

Once I hired a coach my life COMPLETELY transformed, for the better, in every way. I made more money, felt more confident, met the love of my life, felt less overwhelmed and anxiety.... the list goes on and on. 

The accountability coaches provide you is also a huge asset. Having an accountability partner has been scientifically proven to help people achieve their goals. Accountability is so important to success all my coaching packagesinclude unlimited Whatsapp coaching in between sessions so I can make sure I am there to support my clients every single day.

BONUS STRATEGY:
If you'd like to discuss and learn even more about The Law of Attraction and Manifesting join me LIVE today (Tuesday, Feb. 19th) at 1 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Now, I would love to know, have you ever used the Law of Attraction to manifest something amazing into your life? 

Hit the reply button and let me know. 

Wishing you so much love!

Steph
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