Mindset Coach

My #1 hack to feel confident around anyone, anyplace, anytime.

Hi Gorgeous, 

You know that feeling you get when you go to a networking event or when you are around a bunch of people you don't know?

Like you have to prepare a synopsis of all the amazing things you are doing in business and in life?

I used to feel like this all the time. 

Like I had to be so INTERESTING to be worthy. 

It was like I thought I had to EARN my place in the world. 

This put sooooo much pressure on me when I would go to networking events or just out in public in general. Especially when I had severe social anxiety. 

Now I understand that, in social situations, it is so much better to be INTERESTED rather than INTERESTING. 

Watch the video below or keep reading to understand what I mean. 

When you approach people with a smile and genuine heartfelt interest...in them, what they do, what they love, what their hopes wishes and dreams are...

It also allows the other person to let their light shine. This feels really good to both people. Win/Win!

This also releases the pressure of feeling the need to "perform" or "be on show" by telling everyone about yourself. 

This is the quickest way for you to build massive rapport with people too which is an amazing skill to have in business and in life. 

Finally, it is also important for me to point out that you were BORN WORTHY. You do not have to prove yourself to anyone. 

Simply being there, with the beautiful light and love you bring to the room, is enough to "earn" your place in the world. 

When you bring your full and best self, you are a gift and a prize to everyone you meet. 

Always remember that Goddess. 

Much Love, 

Steph
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What THE NESSIE HUNTER taught me about belief

Meeting the "Nessie Hunter" (I'll get to that in a moment!) really made me think... 

Beliefs are funny things, aren't they?

To be honest, beliefs are actually something I think about a lot.

One of the main features of my coaching is guiding my clients to question their beliefs about what is possible for them in their lives. 

We question beliefs like...

  • I am not good at this or that.

  • I will always be broke.

  • I am not worthy.

  • I am not beautiful.

  • I will always struggle.

  • I am an anxious person.

  • I'm not good enough.

  • I am not smart enough.

  • That will take too long.

  • I don't do well with people.

  • I'm not good on camera.

  • Success is for others

  • I'm too fat, too old, too *fill in the blank*

  • The list goes on and on, and on, and on!

These outdated negative beliefs are what hold people back from greatness in so many ways. The bottom line is that our beliefs create our reality. 

I had a big lesson on the power of belief a few weeks ago in Scotland when I met...

THE NESSIE HUNTER

Watch the video below for the full explanation and to visit Loch Ness from the comfort (and warmth!) of your own home.  

Steve Feltham has been hunting full time for the Loch Ness Monster since 1991. 

That is 27 years!! Talk about dedication!

This guy gave up his whole entire life to live in a dinky RV right on the banks of the freezing cold Loch (see my video to see what this looks like first hand) because his belief in Nessie is so strong. 

Scotland is beautiful and so is Loch Ness, however, living in a tiny RV in this harsh environment is no walk in the park! He has to be freezing and lonely. 

Now, imagine what would be possible in your life if you had unshakable belief and faith in what you are capable of? You'd be unstoppable! 

Now let's flip it. 

What beliefs are you holding onto and putting so much faith and trust in that are actually NOT TRUE AT ALL? 

Are they keeping you stuck in a cold, harsh, lonely environment? 

What if you decided to change your mind?

What if you decided to believe the opposite?

What if you decided to make a different choice?

How would your world change?

If our beliefs create our reality, what reality are you creating?

Pretty interesting food for thought isn't it. :)

My belief in you and what you are capable of is UNSHAKABLE. 

Let's do this QUEEN!

Much Love, 

Steph

How to Overcome Social Anxiety

So, you know how there are some people who can walk into a room full of strangers (by themselves!) with full confidence? Able to strike up a conversation with anyone?

While others can hardly say hello to the mailman they've had for 10 years, let alone a room full of strangers.

For the latter, this uncomfortable "shyness" only gets worse in situations where they feel on display or when in group settings, like a workout class or a networking event.

For some people (like me!), this "shyness" can turn into debilitating social anxiety.

Can you believe I couldn't even leave my house at one point?

If the fear of stepping out into social situations is holding you back from doing great things in the world, please know, you are not alone. Far from it. 

The truth is, over 15 million people suffer with social anxiety in the U.S. alone, making it extremely common.

Watch the video below, or keep reading, to hear Steph's story of social anxiety and how she overcame it. 

So what is social anxiety anyway?

People with social anxiety usually experience distress when:

  • They're introduced to new people

  • They feel teased or criticized (which feels as though is happening ALL THE TIME even when it's not.)

  • They're the center of attention (I used to hate this so much!)

  • Being watched while doing something (cringe!)

  • Meeting authority figures or anyone perceived as "important"

  • Most social encounters, especially with strangers

  • Going around the room (or table) in a circle and having to say something (more cringing!)

  • Interpersonal relationships (romantic, business, and friendships can all cause discomfort)

Social anxiety is, in a very small nutshell, the fear of being negatively judged by others.

This perceived judgment (which most of the time IS NOT REAL, watch the video for more on this) leads to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, self-consciousness, embarrassment, humiliation, and sometimes even depression.

Here's the cool part, if I have been able to heal myself of this, you can too. It took my many years to figure out how to get a handle on, it and what to do to combat it. 

Below are the 4 main strategies I used to leave social anxiety in the dust (much more on all of these in the video):

  • Practice self-love and self-worth

    • When you truly love yourself and understand how worthy you are you feel comfortable anyplace, around anyone. YOU ARE A QUEEN. 

  • Release judgments of self AND others

    • The more we judge ourselves and others, the more we feel judged. Period. 

  • Get help

    • Whether it is a therapist or a coach, it is important to get help when the going gets tough. Remember, you are not alone. 

  • Finally understand you have some important gifts to set-forth in the world

    • I truly believe that each and every one of us was brought here to earth for a very specific and divine reason. It is your job to figure out what that is and to then confidently step out into the world and let it rip! (this is my favorite thing to help women do.)

Another cool thing is that listening toPositive Affirmation Trackscan help a ton with all of these things too. 

The bottom line is.... you are supposed to feel comfortable and confident anyplace, anywhere, anytime and around anyone.

If you don't, that just means there are some things you need to take a closer look at. 

If I can do it, you can do it. yay! 

Much Love, 

Steph
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