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You Are Different, Here's Why 💫

Good Morning Queen, 

Today I want to tell you why you are different than the vast majority of the population. All the others who do not understand what powerful creators they are. 

Most people believe the negative thoughts they think about how unworthy they are, about how they aren't capable, about how they don't deserve to receive greatly in life, about how they will always suffer.... are true. 

This is something I understand so well. I lived most of my life believing theseFEAR based thoughts:

-False
-Evidence
-Appearing
-Real 

Then one day I finally got sick of that life, discovered how to change my mindset, and up-leveled my whole entire life. With this new found knowledge I began to help other women do the exact same thing in their lives too.  

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Sometimes our negative thoughts are rooted down so deep in the subconscious mind that we actually believe they are true even when they aren’t.

Believe it or not, if you are unhappy, it’s actually easier to stay that way than it is to change. To keep believing the same untrue beliefs. To keep believing you aren’t good enough. To stay stuck. To blame, criticize, and judge yourself and others.

That’s why most people stay stuck in lack and limitation forever.

That’s why you are different.

You are the type of person who takes massive action. You are the type of person who says enough is enough. You are the type of person who is so sick of hearing herself complain.

You understand your worth and you’re willing to fight for it. You’re willing to get help because you understand the vibration of the world depends on it. When you rise, everyone and everything around you rises too 

You are ready to step into your Queen version. You don’t have to ask ANYONE for permission. You do what you know you need to do to get to your next best place. Your heart, soul, and intuition tell you when it is time to move, not anyone else. 

See, I told you, you are different. :)

If you'd like to discuss and learn even more this topic join me LIVE today (Tuesday, April 23rd) around 1 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Wishing you so much love!

Steph
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Get Unstuck in Life (15 Powerful Affirmations Inside) ✨💥

Hi Beauty!

In last weeks blog, we learned that 90% of people who set goals and resolutions for the New Year have completely abandoned them by April.

I wanted to unpack this a bit more this week to figure out why this is the case. I really believe knowledge is power.

As the late great Maya Angelou once said, “When you know better, you do better.”

It is time to harness the magic that 2019 has to offer you! There's still so much time left to make this year amazing. 

I believe the #1 reason people give up on their goals is because they have repetitive negative thoughts and beliefs looping in their subconscious mind telling them why success isn't possible for them. 

Basically, deep in the subconscious mind, (so deep you don’t even know it's happening) there is a deeply ingrained belief you can't do it (whatever “it” is), that it’s impossible, that you are not capable, and that you might as well give up. 

Thoughts like:

- I’m too old
- I’m too fat
- Not good enough
- Not pretty enough
- Not smart enough
- Don’t have the right certification or degree
- Not talented enough
- Not rich enough 
- I’m too broke
- I can’t afford it
- I’m not strong enough 
- I can’t handle it
- I’ll do it next year (I’ll do it when the time is right)

This list goes on and on and on. 

Now that we have all of that out of that crap out of the way, I want to tell you the truth… 

You were meant for greatness! No matter what your goals are, you can do it despite what your subconscious mind has to say. 

Here’s the cool thing, you don’t have to hustle, struggle, or change anything about yourself physically in order to succeed. What you have to do instead is clean up what’s happening in your mind.

The key to changing your thoughts and beliefs is to consciously cultivate positive thoughts, words, and phrases that you repeat every single day.  

If you do this enough, over time, it will obliterate the negative beliefs, thoughts, and self-talk that are holding you back from succeeding at your big dreams. 

One great way you can do this is by listening to the positive affirmations track I have available for free on my website. (PS- I am currently recording some new tracks that will be available for free download soon! Stay tuned!)

If you want to take things a step further, you can start your day off with powerful intention setting. In this blog, from a few weeks ago, we learned how powerful intention setting is for increasing motivation and increasing productivity. Believe it or not, there is tons of science to prove this.

I have created 15 powerful intentions for you to use every day to get yourself back on track towards achieving your goals.

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Intentions are basically declarations you make to the universe about how you will live your life moving forward and the choices you will make.

Use the 15 Powerful Intentions below to help rewire your brain for success. 

1. No matter what is happens in my life, I thrive!

2. Everything is happening in my favor (even when things appear to be negative I know they are happening FOR me NOT to me.)

3. I easily make choices that serve my high and best good and the high and best good of the world. 

4. I choose thoughts, beliefs, and self talk that support my growth.

5. I listen to my soul and trust my intuition.  

6. I choose to follow love over fear every single day. When I notice myself start to fall into a fear-based cycle, I easily bring myself back to peace and love. 

7. I understand that self-care isn't selfish. When I take care of myself first I have more energy and love to give to others. 

8. I bring positive and supportive people into my life. I release low vibrational relationships.

9. I am committed to my happiness and success. 

10. I make choices that support my success and growth.

11. I love and accept myself exactly as I am. I am allowed to be both a work in progress and a masterpiece at the same time.

12. I understand that I am a powerful manifester. My thoughts create my reality so I choose them wisely.

13. I practice gratitude everyday for all that I have, for who I am, and for what I am capable of.

14. I understand that life isn’t linear. Without the lows, the highs wouldn't’ feel as sweet. I accept and respect both.

15. I say yes to my life and to all the opportunities that can expand my growth. Even when they seem scary or like I can’t do it, I check in with my soul and then say yes.

Read these out loud every morning before you start your day. You can also record yourself saying them into the recorder on your phone and listen to the track a few times a day. If you enjoy journalling, write down these intentions daily. (I like to do all 3, sometimes on the same day and other days I only do 1 or 2 methods.)

If you'd like to discuss and learn even more this topic join me LIVE today (Tuesday, April th) at 1 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Wishing you so much love!

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4 Steps To Up-Level Your Life ✨4 Journal Prompts and Affirmations Inside✨

Hey Gorgeous Queen! 

Spring is finally in the air! This is my favorite time of year. The birds are chirping and mother nature is in bloom.

This is also a great time to recommit to stepping into your greatness so that you can bloom too.

One of the ways you can do this is by getting clear on what you’d like to leave behind and what you’d like to call in.

Sometimes this can be confusing to figure out. Like what the heck do I actually want?? lol Trust me I get it, that's why I created the 4 journal prompts below to help you figure it out. 

Grab your journal, your favorite pen, a nice cup of tea or coffee and free write your answers with no judgment. Do not think about grammar, punctuation, or your penmanship. Just simply close your eyes, take a few big deep breaths in and write. 

Journal Prompts:

  1. What magical, amazing, wonderful things am I ready to bring into my life now?

  2. Who did I come into this world to be? (who am I helping, where am I, who is around me?)

  3. What or whom do I need to “KonMari” out of my life in order to get me closer to my dream life?

  4. Who do I need to bring into my life to help me finally achieve my dreams?

CLICK HERE to watch my VLOG on what it means to “KonMari” your life.

Once you are clear on these 4 questions you can begin to implement my 4 Steps to Up-Level Your Life. These steps will alllow you to move forward towards your goals in an effective way. 
 

4 Steps to Up-Level Your Life and Follow Your Dreams Today


Step 1: Wake Up With Gratitude
Now that you know exactly what you’d like to bring into your life it can be really easy to accidentally slip into focusing on all the reasons why it won’t happen, why you can't do it, or why you aren’t good enough. 

This makes sense since our brain is wired to focus on the negative, meaning they have a tendency to focus on what we lack and who you aren’t instead of on who we are and what we have, let me explain.

It was very important for our prehistoric ancestors to focus on the lions, tigers, and bears that could eat them or the food that would be lacking next season. In other words, their survival was dependent on their brain focusing on LACK and LIMITATION and since it takes 1,000’s of years for the human species to evolve, your brain is still wired to focus on the negative, even though these threats to your survival no longer exist in the modern world.

This is why it is so important for you to really internalize and fully feel the gratitude of how amazing your life is. For the air in your lungs, because you can walk, because you live in a country where you are free to be, do, and have anything that you want. 

CLICK HERE to read a blog post I wrote detailing the amazing science-based benefits that come with practicing gratitude. It's pretty amazing.

Every morning, make a list or say a list out loud of 10 things you are grateful for so you can start to wire your brain to look at all the positives in your life instead of on the negatives.

Step 2: After Gratitude, Move to Positive Affirmations
This step is important for the same reasons as the one above. Listening to positive affirmation tracks is a super easy thing you can do to rewire the thoughts and beliefs you carry in your mind.

Most of us carry around a subconscious belief that we are not good, enough, smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough... FILL IN THE BLANK enough. Listening to positive affirmation tracks allows you to rewrite and replace these beliefs with positive ones. 

CLICK HERE to download a free, 60 minute long, positive affirmations track.

If you prefer to recite them instead of listening (I recommend that you do both!) below is a list you can write down on sticky notes and place on your bathroom mirror or bedside table.

  • I love myself

  • I am worthy

  • I am grateful

  • I am blessed

  • I am a magnet for miracles


Step 3: Flip Your Focus From Negative to Positive (over and over and over again!)
Instead of focusing on who you are not, what you don’t have, and who doesn’t like you flip your focus on to who you are, what you have, and who LOVES you! Fear of judgment is one of the #1 reasons people give up on their dreams. 

Check out this IG Story I recorded last week to understand how amazing you are!

Step 4: Get An Accountability Partner (Or Better Yet, A Coach)
There is so much science showing the benefit of having an accountability partner or coach when it comes to achieving your goals.

Accountability is so important to success all my coaching packages include unlimited Whatsapp coaching in between sessions so I can make sure I am there to support my clients every single day.

Having consistent daily accountability from a professional who you trust also builds certainty which gives your dreams momentum! Building your belief in yourself and what's possible for you in your life also makes you a manifesting machine! 

CLICK HERE to read my blog on The Law of Attraction and Why it isn't’ Working For You

Accountability also helps you to course correct much more quickly than you can on your own which is another reason why coaching helps you to achieve your goals much quicker than you can on your own. 

There is still time for you to take advantage of my $500 off any coaching package offer. CLICK HERE for testimonials, CLICK HERE to apply, CLICK HERE for details or email me at steph@raiseyourvibetoday.com with questions :)

This is your sign... the time is NOW! 

If you'd like to discuss and learn even more this topic join me LIVE today (Tuesday, March 26th) at 1 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Wishing you so much love!

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How the “1 Minute Rule” Changed My Life 💃🙋 >VLOG<

Hey Gorgeous Queen! 

I think it’s safe to say that most of us would love to get more things done every day. But, unfortunately, we can’t increase the number of hours we have.

That means the only way to get more done in the same amount of time is to implement strategies that increase productivity.

I would like to introduce to you to the easiest productivity hack around. It’s called: The One Minute Rule.

I learned this rule from Gretchen Rubin, the author of The Happiness Project and Better than Before. Rubin says: 

“Anything you can do in less than a minute, do without delay.” says Rubin. “So, if you can print out a letter and file it. If you can look at a document and throw it away. If you can put your coat on a hook instead of on the back of a chair. Anything you can do in less than a minute, you just go ahead and do it.”

At first glance, this rule seems silly and like it wouldn’t make much of an impact but the truth is, it can create huge shifts in the amount of tasks you get done in a day.

I decided to do an experiment and implement this rule into my personal life for the last 4 days. 

Watch the 4 minute video below to hear my experience (it was amazing!)

Do you accept The 1 Minute Challenge? If you do, click reply and let me know!

After you complete one week shoot me a quick email: steph@raiseyourvibetoday.com and let me know how you feel. 

Can't wait to hear all about it Queen!

If you'd like to discuss and learn even more about The 1 Minute Rule to Success join me LIVE today (Tuesday, Feb. 19th) at 1 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Wishing you so much love!

Steph
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Is Perfectionism Holding You Back From Success? 🙈🙅

Hello Beauty!

Years ago, when I had severe anxiety, was completely broke, lonely, and lost… I held myself back so much because I thought I had to be perfect in order to be worthy. 

I allowed perfectionism to stop me from going after my dreams. I thought I had to be perfectly thin, perfectly dressed, perfectly smart, perfectly skilled, perfectly well-spoken, perfectly *fill in the blank* in order to be successful. 

No wonder I was so scared to move forward! Can you relate? 

You know what's interesting? According to the latest research, perfectionism has been on a steady rise over the last 3 decades. 

Some experts believe this increase is due to the amount of time we now spend on social media looking at people's "highlight reels."

These posts only show people and their families on their best days, with the best angles, best lighting, best outfits, best makeup, best hair, cleanest rooms, and are usually filtered to death. 

Even though most people aren't posting the true reality of their lives, these highlight reel posts are having a negative affect on our mindset and what we believe we need to be, do, and have in order to be worthy. 

Here is the problem with perfectionism. It is holding people back from living their dream lives. 

So, what actually is perfectionism anyway?

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The definition of perfectionism is: The refusal to accept any standard short of perfection.

This refusal to accept anything other than perfection can express itself in many ways. You can be highly critical of yourself and, in turn, others too.

This can put a big strain on our relationships. When we place such high standards and expectations on others it can cause them to feel as though they are constantly walking on eggshells.  

Perfectionism can also be caused or reinforced by how you were raised, where you work, who you hang out with most, where you spend your spare time (like Facebook and Instagram), and also your personality. 

Interestingly, people with higher levels of anxiety tend to suffer from perfectionism more so than those who are anxiety free. (Anyone else raising their hand?? lol)

One of the biggest reasons people struggle with perfectionism (and one that is very common in the beautiful women I have the pleasure of coaching is)… Fear of failure. 

This is really a mindset issue. People who have a deep fear of failure view anything less than perfect as a failure, therefore, they avoid taking chances or going after their dreams.

Basically, they hold themselves back from greatness over an unrealistic belief that they have to be perfect in order to be successful.

Perfectionism also causes another nasty habit… procrastination. (Another topic we will be covering in depth in the Mindset By Design for Her private FB Group,click here to join in on the conversation.)

When you feel like you have to be perfect, it can make it really hard for you to want to get started. As a matter of fact, it causes your brain to go into analysis paralysis. 

Luckily, there are a few simple strategies we can implement to stop perfectionism from holding us back from the success we want and deserve. 

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How to Release Perfectionism for Good in 4 Simple Steps

1. Test it Out
If you have lived most of your life as a perfectionist, transforming into a free-spirited “this is good enough” kind of person overnight isn't realistic. This is why it is smarter to start with baby steps. For example, you can send an email without proofreading it 20 times first. Or you can go to a networking event even if you feel like you don't have the perfect outfit to wear or the perfect thing to say, reminding yourself before each "trial run" that perfection doesn't exist. 

Once you get comfortable dipping your toes in the “this is good enough/I am good enough” water, it will get easier and easier to release your need for perfection more and more and more. 

2. Change Your Perception 
Perfectionists can often hold the bar so high for themselves that is hard to know what “good enough” actually is. If this is you, what you can do is think to yourself, what would I tell my coworker, friend, son/daughter, or loved one about this? Would you call them too fat to speak in front of a crowd? Would you tell them they weren't perfect enough to go after their dreams? Probably not. 

Understanding when it would be “good enough” for someone else can help you to determine whether or not you are starting to fall into perfectionistic tendencies.

3. Set Time Limits 
Perfectionism can cause you to do 2 things:

#1 Procrastinate and do nothing or
#2 Make you take WAY too long to complete things so nothing ever gets done.

I currently provide mindset coaching to a large group of high-level entrepreneurs in the health space. Everyone from chiropractors, naturopaths, doctors, and dietician who are all launching online courses and practices. Some of these practitioners launch in 3 weeks while some are 12 months in and still haven’t launched. 

This is why, every chance I get, I tell the people who are taking longer to put a time limit on all the work they need to do in order to get their program launched. 

For example, if it is taking them a whole day or even a week to complete one exercise that is a red flag that perfectionism is kicking in. When I meet with these clients I always recommend that they give themselves a time limit for each task and that is the same advice I want to give to you. 

4. Schedule Your Perfectionism
For some of us, having a high standard is just in our DNA which, as we now know, can be a hindrance to our success, however, there is are different instances when your high bar can be used in your favor. So for example, if there is a task that is very detail oriented, numbers based, or if you are doing a project for a client, this can be a great time to strategically allow your high standards to shine brightly.

The important part here is that you allow yourself to, at the same time, loosen up on other things and also implement the previous strategies above too. 

DONE > PERFECT
Here is the truth, there is no such thing as perfect. It simply doesn’t exist. So if we keep aiming for perfection we will get stuck staying in the same place, never moving forward. This is why done will always beat perfect every time. 

If you'd like to discuss and learn even more about Perfectionism and how it can have a negative affect on entrepreneurs join me LIVE today (Tuesday, February 12th) at 2 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Now I want to know, have you ever let perfectionism hold you back from greatness or going after your dreams? Hit the reply button and let me know.

Wishing you so much love!

See you later today in the group

Steph
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Feel More Productive in Coffee Shops? Here’s why ☕💥

Hi my gorgeous friend! 

I am sitting here at Armature Works in Tampa, sipping on a Yerba Mate tea, typing this blog and thought… 

Have you ever noticed how you feel way more productive and focused when you work from a coffee shop? 

I know I seem to accomplish more in two or three hours at a coffee shop than I do in an entire day working from home.

It's important to point out that I usually drink decaf coffee and tea so it’s not because of the caffeine. 

So if extra caffeine isn't the reason why most people feel more productive and focused at coffee shops then what is it, and more importantly, how can we cultivate the same focus and drive when we are at home or in the office?

Keep reading to learn the 3 key reasons you are so much more productive when you work from a coffee shop and 3 strategies you can use to enhance your productivity no matter where to you are. 

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1. Your Brain Seeks Out Novelty
The human brain is constantly seeking novelty, in other words, your subconscious mind is always on the lookout for things that are new and exciting. This makes perfect sense when you consider that our DNA and brain are still wired the same as our prehistoric ancestors. These people were hunter-gatherers roaming the earth for 1,000’s years. They were rarely in the same place for more than a few weeks or months. Talk about living a novel life! Life for them was different on a daily basis. Different is what our brain is wired to seek out, so when we don’t have it, our brain gets bored and unmotivated.

Another reason your brain likes new and different things is because when you are presented with something novel, your brain releases the neurotransmitter dopamine AKA the “feel good” chemical. Recent studies show that dopamine doesn't just make you feel good, it is also closely tied to motivation. This explains why getting yourself into a new environment, like a coffee shop, enhances your motivation, creativity, productivity, and happiness. 
 

1a. How To Make This Work For You
Basically, when you get your butt out of the house or out of your usual working space your brain really likes it. You can recreate this by taking your laptop outside or by switching up your workspace. If you work from home, move away from your desk. Sit at the kitchen table, on the couch, in the spare bedroom, or on the patio. If you work in an office, take your laptop outside. If that isn't an option for you, switch up your desk. Move your seat to the other side or buy new pictures and plants to create a new fresh feeling for your brain.


2. Some Routines Reduce Productivity 
As we learned last week some routines can really enhance productivity.  Some routines, however, do the complete opposite. For example, if you get into a routine of getting sucked down the Youtube, Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter rabbit holes for hours every day instead of doing your work… that is a problem.

Just like unhealthy habits, unhealthy routines are easy to accidentally fall into but they aren’t as easy to stop. Our environment has a lot to do with our daily routines. For example, let’s say you’ve started a daily routine of going down the social media rabbit hole for hours every day and this new habit starts as soon as you sit on the couch or in the breakroom to eat lunch.

Basically this negative scrolling routine has been anchored (an NLP term used when neurology gets connected to a trigger) to your couch or breakroom. This means that the second you take yourself away from your couch or breakroom and into a new environment, like a coffee shop, that set of neurology won't loop and you’ll do work instead of getting sucked into social media.

2a. How To Make This Work For You
So if you have found that you have accidentally developed a negative routine that is draining your productivity you need to first acknowledge you have fallen into a negative routine. Once you admit it is a problem you can start to plan ways to break the pattern (which is really just looping neurology).

You can schedule in a cellphone-free walk, you can book in calls with friends and family, you can set an alarm to give yourself a specific amount of scrolling time before you have to put the phone away. If the routine, habit, or looping negative thoughts you have fallen into have become more than you can handle or break on your own, hire a coach you can trust to help you get you back on track and moving towards your hopes, wishes, and dreams. 

3. Your Intention, That’s What It’s All About
There is yet another reason why we feel so much more productive at coffee shops. It’s because we simply set the intention that we are going to be super productive before we head out. In other words, we make the conscious decision before we leave, “I am going to get a ton of work done today.” and so that is exactly what happens.

In the book, The Intention Experiment, by Lynne McTaggart,  William A. Tiller, a professor Stanford University states, “For the last 400 years, an unstated assumption of science is that human intention cannot affect what we call physical reality. Our experimental research of the past decade shows that, for today’s world and under the right conditions, this assumption is no longer correct.”

3a. How To Make This Work For You
As you can see, intention setting is very powerful and the best part is, it is easy to implement into your daily routine. In the morning, before you start work you can set some intentions for the day. These intentions can be about anything from work, to how you want to feel, to your personal life. Below are some example of some of the intentions I have set for my day in the past: 

  • I will allow today to be easy.

  • I will understand that I am fully supported by the universe/divine/source/spirit.

  • I will choose to understand that everything (even the bad things) are happening in my favor. 

  • I will intentionally smile at strangers. 

  • I will count my blessing and say thank you often

  • I will fully clean out my email inbox today. 

  • I will complete all the forms for my dog's appointments. 

  • I will get half my taxes done today. 

As you can see there are many reasons why we are more productive in coffee shops. Now you have the knowledge you need in order to bring that increase in motivation with you everywhere you go. Pretty cool right?

Want to discuss and learn even more about "The Coffee Shop Affect?" Join me LIVE today (Tuesday, Feb 5th) at 12:30 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live.

Can't wait to hang out with you live and in person inside the group!

Also, I'd love to hear what your favorite tidbit of knowledge is from today's topic. Hit the comment button and let me know :)

Much love, 

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Too Many Decisions Hurt Your Brain?? Welcome to Decision Fatigue 😓

The second you wake up, the decision making starts…  to press the snooze button or not, what to wear, what to eat, what to pack for lunch, what to pack your kids for lunch… the list goes on and on and on.

Research shows that we make an average of 35,000 decisions every day! Making so many decisions can be exhausting, so exhausting in fact, it has its own name: Decision Fatigue.

This term was created by Roy F. Baumeister, a world-renowned social psychologist and author of, Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength. According to Baumeister, long bouts of decision making tires your brain, in the same way, a long bout of exercise tires your muscles. 

This phenomenon doesn’t just make you tired. Decision fatigue has a negative affect on your self-control, willpower, and productivity which can lead to a slew of negative consequences.

CLICK HERE to listen to my podcast on Willpower on The Mindset By Design Podcast

CLICK HERE to see my video explaining how willpower is like a battery and must be charged up. 

For example, you might get annoyed and lose your temper at a loved one if they ask you a question when you feel decision fatigue. Or you might say “I don’t care, you decide.” when you really should care and be involved in the decision, you just don't have the energy to do so. 

During decision fatigue, your brain might short circuit completely causing you to freeze and make no decision at all. This is sometimes called analysis paralysis. 

Decision fatigue is particularly troublesome in the digital age because we have so much information being thrown at us every second of the day. This means our brain is constantly getting bombarded with information to make decisions on: to click or not to click, to scroll or not to scroll, to buy or not to buy. 

Here’s the good news, there are a few strategies you can use to combat decision fatigue especially during a decision-heavy day. 

Keep reading to learn the 5 simple strategies (plus bonus strategy!) you can use to combat decision fatigue. 

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Here are your 5 strategies, plus one extra for good measure :)

1. Prioritize Quiet Time
Have you ever noticed how your best ideas come when you are brushing your teeth, when you’re in the shower, or while you're on a leisurely walk? That is because these activities take no conscious effort. This means your conscious mind (the thinking/logical part of your brain) can take a break. This allows you to tap into your subconscious mind more easily. 

This is where all your new creative knowledge lives that gets blocked by all the conscious work your mind has to do every day. Taking time to quiet down the conscious mind will work wonders for your stress levels (decision fatigue increases stress) and can actually improve the neurological connections in your brain. This is also why meditation and POSITIVE AFFIRMATION TRACKS can be so powerful. They give your conscious "thinking" mind the break it needs. 

2. Create Habits and Routines to Decrease Decision Making
Ever wonder why geniuses like Steve Jobs, creator of Apple, wore the same black turtleneck, round glasses, and jeans every single day? He didn’t do this just because he really liked black turtlenecks. He did this because it gave his brain extra energy to spend on more important decisions, like building a multi-billion dollar company.  As a matter of fact, Baumeister found that the most successful people in the world combat decision fatigue by developing habits and routines like this. 

You can help combat decision fatigue in your life by creating a calendar of breakfasts, dinners, deciding what to wear to work the night before, and scheduling in quiet time every single day. This will give your brain a break from decision making so it has the energy for important things. 

3. Chunk Your Day
Chunking or batching your work is another way to combat decision fatigue. What this means is to block off specific days and/or times for certain work. For example, you can book in specific times to check your emails every day. You can choose specific days to work on certain tasks like Monday can be an article writing day and Tuesday can be a day you see clients while Friday can be your catch up day. Chunking your work in this way will cut down on the decisions you have to make because every hour of every day you’ll know what you are supposed to be focusing on. 

4. Give Yourself a Deadline
Setting deadlines for your decision making will stop you from going into analysis paralysis which is a huge energy drainer. Generally, the more time you give yourself to make a decision the longer you will spin your wheels. Setting deadlines also gives your brain an intention to focus on which will help you make a decision quicker. (Next week we will learn just how powerful intention setting is so stay tuned next Tuesday for that email.)

5. Make Sure to Bring Snacks
This one might sound funny but it’s actually super important. Not only is your brain’s main fuel source glucose but it has been scientifically proven that hunger can cause people to make impulsive decisions. What’s really interesting is that the hormone ghrelin (which is produced by your stomach when you are hungry) has been shown to decrease impulse control.

Having a healthy snack handy during long meetings or when you know it’s going to be a while until your next meal can give your brain and body the fuel it needs to make decisions more easily causing you less decision fatigue.

BONUS STRATEGY:
If you'd like to discuss and learn even more about Decision Fatigue and how it affects entrepreneurs join me LIVE today (Tuesday, Jan. 29nd) at 1:15 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

At the end of the day, there is no way you'll ever be able to stop making decisions but you can use these 5 strategies to help stop decision fatigue before it causes negative consequences in your life. 

Has decision fatigue ever had a negative affect in your life or in your business? 

Leave a comment and let me know.

Wishing you so much love!

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Ever Feel Like a Fraud? How to Stop Imposter Syndrome in its Tracks💥🙅

Quick question, when it comes to being a #bossbabe biz owner, an amazing parent, or just living life... have you ever felt like a total FRAUD?

Sort of like, “Who am I to do, x, y, or z?”  or “Why would x, y, z person want to listen to me?”

If you said YES, you are definitely not alone, almost everyone has suffered from “Imposter Syndrome” at some point in their lives. Even super famous and successful people have felt this way before.  

According to the Journal of Behavioral Science, a whopping 70% of people suffer with, what the researchers refer to as, “Imposter Phenomenon."

Even more important to point out is this phenomenon affects women more than men. 

So if feeling like a fraud is so common, especially for women, what are we supposed to do when this negative feeling strikes?

Keep reading below to find out 5 strategies you can use to combat Imposter Syndrome next time it pops up in your life. 

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Here are 5 super simple strategies you can use to release Imposter Syndrome when it creeps up. 
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1.Let it Out
When you start to feel Imposter Syndrome coming on, talk about it with someone you trust like a friend, family member, or coach. Brene Brown, author of The Gifts of Imperfection and Rising Strong, says that the very best thing you can do in a “shame attack” is to have the courage to reach out.

Talking about your feelings neutralizes the negative charge and power they have over you. Think about a boiling pot. When you keep the lid on, the pressure builds up and eventually causes an explosion. When you remove the lid the pressure dissipates. Same with your shame.

This is one of the many reasons I include UNLIMITED Whatsapp coaching in between sessions for my clients. This allows them to reach out to me when they are having a hard time so that I can remind them how amazing they are, or in this case, all the reason why they are not a fraud, so they can move on with their lives in a positive direction MUCH quicker than they would do alone.

2. Remember The Spotlight Affect 
Sometimes when Imposter Syndrome creeps up it is because we feel judged. When you feel judged or like everyone is critiquing your every move in business, on social media, or in life you have to remember The Spotlight Affect. 

According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, most of us considerably OVERESTIMATE how much attention or “spotlighting” people are placing on us. This is thought to happen because our brain perceives ourselves as the center of our own world, therefore we have a tendency to perceive our own actions, thoughts, and words to loom much larger than other people’s actions, thoughts, and words.  

In this study, the researchers were able to determine that we tend to overestimate judgments and criticisms by more than 50%! So next time you are feeling judged ask yourself if you are actually being judged or if it’s really just The Spotlight Affect in action.

3. Flip your Focus
Now that you understand the science behind The Spotlight Affect you can understand how flipping your attention from yourself and over to something else like, how you can help others or what you can do to grow your business, can help to free you from Imposter Syndrome.

It can be so easy to accidentally have a single focus on ourselves and how awful we are. When we flip that focus onto something positive, we are able to break the looping negative thoughts that accompany Imposter Syndrome. 

4. Focus on Your Successes & What You Are Grateful For
Here’s the truth, your mind is not on your side, and this is why when Imposter Syndrome pops we focus on what we lack and who you aren’t instead of on who we are and what we have, let me explain.

It was very important for our prehistoric ancestors to focus on the lions, tigers, and bears that could eat them or the food that would be lacking next season. In other words, their survival was dependent on their brain focusing on LACK and LIMITATION and since it takes 1,000’s of years for the human species to evolve, your brain is still wired to focus on the negative, even though these threats to your survival no longer exist in the modern world.

This is why it is so important for you to really internalize and fully feel the gratitude of your successes rather than focusing on your failures. CLICK HERE to read a blog post I wrote detailing the amazing science-based benefits that come with practicing gratitude. It's pretty amazing. 

5. Listen To Positive Affirmation Tracks
Listening to positive affirmation tracks is a super easy thing you can do to rewire the thoughts and beliefs you carry in your mind. Imposture Syndrome happens because we subconsciously carry a belief about ourselves that we are not good, enough, smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough... FILL IN THE BLANK enough. Listening to positive affirmation tracks allows you to rewrite and replace these beliefs with positive ones. 

At first, when you begin to listen to positive affirmations, your brain might doubt what it hears is true. This is because the wiring in the brain hasn't been reset yet. The more and more and more you listen the softer your mindset will become and soon the affirmations will become beliefs. CLICK HERE to download a free, 60 minute long, positive affirmations track. 

BONUS STRATEGY:
If you'd like to discuss and learn even more about Imposture Syndrome join me LIVE today (Tuesday, Jan. 22nd) at 12 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Now, I would love to hear which strategy is your favorite and which ones you are excited to try or have tried in the past. 

Hit the reply button and let me know. 

Wishing you so much love!

Steph
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