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Ever Feel Misunderstood or Judged? Here's the Truth 💫

Hi Gorgeous Queen, 

Have you ever felt misunderstood, before you’ve even spoken? Kind of like you’re under a microscope at all times? Like you have to choose your words so wisely so you don't offend anyone or look stupid?

I used to feel like that ALL THE TIME and it was so uncomfortable. Because I felt so uncomfortable I used to silence myself and hold myself back in so many ways.

I had a deep-rooted fear of what others would think of me. I would often worry, “What if they misunderstand me?”, “What if they hate me or judge me?”, "What if they laugh at me?", "What if I make someone mad or upset?"

Even worse, there were times when I would get brave enough to speak my truth about certain spiritual beliefs and mindset techniques, that I knew could help others, only to have people make fun of me online and roll their eyes at me in person. (This was devastating at the time but now I find it so funny because I understand I totally created this reality lol) 

If you ever feel this way or if this has ever happened to you, it is important for you to know the truth. 

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Here's the truth...as long as what you say comes from a place of LOVE you have the right to say whatever is on your heart. It’s all about the intention. If your intention is pure and good, then you can not cause any harm. 

The hard part is understanding that the other people in your life and online might not be in the right place to feel your love and caring. They might not be in the right place to fully understand your words. (Cool thing is, in my experience, they always do eventually, even if it takes years.) 

You are not in control of how your words are taken. You are in control of how you say them, your intention behind them, and how you handle the response you receive back... even when it’s not the response you’d hoped for. 

And that is that :) 

If you'd like to learn some techniques on how to handle negative responses in a better way, join me LIVE today (Tuesday, May 14th) around 1 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Wishing you so much love!

Steph
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You Are Different, Here's Why 💫

Good Morning Queen, 

Today I want to tell you why you are different than the vast majority of the population. All the others who do not understand what powerful creators they are. 

Most people believe the negative thoughts they think about how unworthy they are, about how they aren't capable, about how they don't deserve to receive greatly in life, about how they will always suffer.... are true. 

This is something I understand so well. I lived most of my life believing theseFEAR based thoughts:

-False
-Evidence
-Appearing
-Real 

Then one day I finally got sick of that life, discovered how to change my mindset, and up-leveled my whole entire life. With this new found knowledge I began to help other women do the exact same thing in their lives too.  

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Sometimes our negative thoughts are rooted down so deep in the subconscious mind that we actually believe they are true even when they aren’t.

Believe it or not, if you are unhappy, it’s actually easier to stay that way than it is to change. To keep believing the same untrue beliefs. To keep believing you aren’t good enough. To stay stuck. To blame, criticize, and judge yourself and others.

That’s why most people stay stuck in lack and limitation forever.

That’s why you are different.

You are the type of person who takes massive action. You are the type of person who says enough is enough. You are the type of person who is so sick of hearing herself complain.

You understand your worth and you’re willing to fight for it. You’re willing to get help because you understand the vibration of the world depends on it. When you rise, everyone and everything around you rises too 

You are ready to step into your Queen version. You don’t have to ask ANYONE for permission. You do what you know you need to do to get to your next best place. Your heart, soul, and intuition tell you when it is time to move, not anyone else. 

See, I told you, you are different. :)

If you'd like to discuss and learn even more this topic join me LIVE today (Tuesday, April 23rd) around 1 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Wishing you so much love!

Steph
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KonMari Your Life and Mind Not Just Your Closet (Here's How) 💃💫

Hi my gorgeous friend, 

Happy Tuesday :)

About 3.5 years ago, 1 month before my mom passed away, I serendipitously discovered the book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo.

(Have you read it? Hit reply and let me know what you thought of it.)

Once I heard her method included organizing things into piles that bring you joy and those that don't, I knew I had to get a copy. 

This is something I had been recommending my coaching clients do for years. I just didn't say it as eloquently as Marie Kondo does lol. 

I read the book because I was interested in Marie's methodology. What I didn't know was that this book would help me tremendously when I lost my beautiful mother.

Just one month later, my sister and I found ourselves going through, and having to donate, most of our Mom's things after she passed away. 

Reading this book gave me the clarity and strength I needed to understand that my beloved mother did not live in her things. I would always have her memory no matter how many of her things I donated.

I was able to objectively ask myself, does this bring me joy? And if the answer was no, I put it in the donate pile. 

Ever since then, it's become one of my favorite books, for more reasons that one, as you'll soon see.

Marie Kondo now has a Netflix series that is taking the world by storm! I have even seen articles saying that places like GoodWill have been receiving an overflow of donations ever since the series aired! 

This got me thinking, what if people jumped on the bandwagon of ridding their mind and lives of the people, places, things, ideas, beliefs, thoughts, and self-talk that don't bring them joy with as much gusto as they do their closets?

This is actually a topic I have wanted to write about for years but I've been putting it off because it seemed so hard to articulate. 

As a matter of fact, in the middle of writing this blog, I realized that I just can't do it! lol. So instead, I got on camera and made a video so I could explain my thoughts about this to you verbally.  

Check out the video below. FYI... It's exactly 11:11 minutes long! If you know then you know :)

Now, do you get it?

Imagine how your life and business would change if you "KonMari'd" your life and mind instead of just your closet?

You would be the most powerful manifester known to man! You'd be a world changer and happier than you'd ever dreamed possible. 

Let's discuss this topic further! Join me LIVe in the Mindset By Design for Her private FB Group around 1pm EST today. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join. Can’t wait to see you there!

If you'd like to learn more about the "KonMari Your Life" coaching package or if you'd like to take me up on my $500 off {!!!!!} any coaching package offer, simply CLICK HERE to complete a short application for a Soulmate Session with me. 

There is absolutely no obligation to book a Soulmate Session and they are complimentary. It simply gives us a chance to hang out, connect, and see if we are a good fit for each other. 

CLICK HERE for your complimentary session.

If you have any questions, please respond to this email and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible.

Can’t wait to hang out with you soon. :)

Wishing you so much love!

Steph
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How the “1 Minute Rule” Changed My Life 💃🙋 >VLOG<

Hey Gorgeous Queen! 

I think it’s safe to say that most of us would love to get more things done every day. But, unfortunately, we can’t increase the number of hours we have.

That means the only way to get more done in the same amount of time is to implement strategies that increase productivity.

I would like to introduce to you to the easiest productivity hack around. It’s called: The One Minute Rule.

I learned this rule from Gretchen Rubin, the author of The Happiness Project and Better than Before. Rubin says: 

“Anything you can do in less than a minute, do without delay.” says Rubin. “So, if you can print out a letter and file it. If you can look at a document and throw it away. If you can put your coat on a hook instead of on the back of a chair. Anything you can do in less than a minute, you just go ahead and do it.”

At first glance, this rule seems silly and like it wouldn’t make much of an impact but the truth is, it can create huge shifts in the amount of tasks you get done in a day.

I decided to do an experiment and implement this rule into my personal life for the last 4 days. 

Watch the 4 minute video below to hear my experience (it was amazing!)

Do you accept The 1 Minute Challenge? If you do, click reply and let me know!

After you complete one week shoot me a quick email: steph@raiseyourvibetoday.com and let me know how you feel. 

Can't wait to hear all about it Queen!

If you'd like to discuss and learn even more about The 1 Minute Rule to Success join me LIVE today (Tuesday, Feb. 19th) at 1 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Wishing you so much love!

Steph
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Why the Law of Attraction isn't Working for You (and How to Fix it) 💫 ✨

Hi My Beauty! 

Happy Tuesday! 

If there is anything about me you should know it is this, even though I am a former science based researcher and much of my coaching is based in hardcore, black and white neuroscience, I am also HELLA spiritual. 

I like to describe my coaching as a mixture of science and magic :) The magic part is what we will be focusing on today. 

The Law of Attraction is a subject that most people have heard of but very few know how to properly execute in their lives. 

If you haven't heard of the Law of Attraction. CLICK HERE to watch a short 5-minute long video I made detailing how it works 

So many times when I meet with new clients they say:

“Stephanie, I learned about the Law of Attraction so I made a vision board, set goals, tried meditating, read a million self-help books, watched The Secret and….. Nothing has happened!” 

And you know what, I completely understand. I have been there soooooo many times in the past. 

There is one main problem getting in the way of people manifesting their dream lives. Here is the truth, the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for about 99% of people because they are out of alignment. 

In a very small nutshell, their conscious mind is not in alignment with their unconscious (or subconscious, I use them interchangeably) mind. 

For the sake of clarity, here are my definitions of the conscious and unconscious mind:

Conscious Mind: This is the logical part of your mind. The part of your mind that you are consciously aware of. What that means is you have to tell this part of your mind what to do. For example, you consciously told your brain to open this email and read it. In other words, it didn’t happen automatically or on autopilot like most of the things we think, believe, and say do. 

Unconscious Mind: This is the part of your mind that runs on autopilot. This is where your beliefs, self-talk, and values live. For example, you do not have to tell yourself, “you know what, today I’d really like to feel stressed and lacking in self-confidence.” We would never consciously tell ourselves something like that but it happens all the time. That is because this is running on autopilot subconsciously as do SO many of the things we do every day. Like showering, brushing our teeth, tieing our shoes, or even driving to work. 

There is so much more (like a lot more) to both of these concepts but these loose definitions will give you a little context to work with for the rest of this article. 

When you align what you do and think consciously (making the vision boards, setting the goals, reading books) with what is running on autopilot subconsciously (Your beliefs about what is actually possible in your life, what you deserve, how worthy you are, and your beliefs about who you are and what you were born to do.) Magic happens. 

When these two parts of your brain are not in sync (which is the case for most people) there is a misalignment in your vibrational energy and, therefore, the Law of Attraction simply cannot and will not work. 

So basically, whatever it is that you want: money, love, a new job, or anything else... it is not enough to write it down, make a vision board, watch youtube videos, read books, meditate, visualize, and wait for it to show up. This is only half the work.

The most important things you can do to create a life that you truly love is to have your conscious mind and the subconscious mind to line up and agree with one another. To have them be in alignment. THIS is the secret sauce. :)

Now you might be wondering, how the heck do I do that?

There are 1,000’s of things you can do to start to create positive shifts in your unconscious mind. Keep reading below to learn 3 simple strategies you can use to manifest more of what you want into your life (and less of what you don’t want!)

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#1 Listen to Positive Affirmation Tracks
Listening to positive affirmation tracks is a super easy thing you can do to rewire the thoughts and beliefs that automatically occur in your subconscious mind. Thoughts like “I am not good, enough, smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough... FILL IN THE BLANK enough.” are holding you back from receiving that which you are wanting to appear in your life.  

Listening to positive affirmation tracks allows you to rewrite and replace these beliefs with positive ones, in turn, raising your vibration (which is another topic we will cover in the Mindset By Design for Her Private Facebook Group.)

Here is something you need to be aware of before you begin listening to or practicing positive affirmations. At first, your brain might doubt what you are listening to is true because many of the positive declarations will go directly against what you believe to be true about yourself for 10, 20, 30, even 40 years. The more and more and more you listen the softer your mindset will become and soon the affirmations will become your actual beliefs. CLICK HERE to download a free, 60 minute long, positive affirmations track.

#2 Set Intentions Daily
Two weeks ago we learned how powerful setting daily intentions are in the blog: Feel More Productive in Coffee Shops? Here’s Why (You can read it by clicking here

In this article, we learned that one of the reasons we feel so much more productive at coffee shops is simply because we set the intention for it to be and so that is exactly what happens.

In the book, The Intention Experiment, by Lynne McTaggart,  William A. Tiller, a professor Stanford University states, “For the last 400 years, an unstated assumption of science is that human intention cannot affect what we call physical reality. Our experimental research of the past decade shows that, for today’s world and under the right conditions, this assumption is no longer correct.”

As you can see, intention setting is very powerful and the best part is, it is easy to implement into your daily routine. Set daily intentions about what you will and won’t allow to run on autopilot in your unconscious mind each day. 
 
Below are some examples of intentions you can set for your day:
-Today I will choose to believe that I was put on this earth to receive greatly. 
-Today I will choose to believe that I am self-confident, capable, and worthy. 
-I am ready willing and able to take divinely guided action towards my dreams. 
-Today I will choose to believe I am strong enough, smart enough, and handle adversity well. 
-Today I will choose to believe that obstacles are actually roadblocks veering me in the right direction. 
-Today I will allow it all to be easy.

#3 Hire a Qualified Coach
While the strategies above will 100% provide you with results over time, the absolute quickest way you can change your subconscious mind in order to become a manifesting machine is to hire a highly qualified mindset coach.  I personally prefer to work with coaches who combined both spiritual tactics with science. (Which I am sure doesn't come as a shock to you. lol)

Here is what I can tell you for sure, what took me 10 years to cultivate in my life can happen for you MUCH quicker with the help of a coach. A coach is essentially a like a sherpa or guide who can help you trek up the mountain or through the jungle way more easily because they have been there before. They know the path and can guide you with the right systems, tools, and techniques. 

Once I hired a coach my life COMPLETELY transformed, for the better, in every way. I made more money, felt more confident, met the love of my life, felt less overwhelmed and anxiety.... the list goes on and on. 

The accountability coaches provide you is also a huge asset. Having an accountability partner has been scientifically proven to help people achieve their goals. Accountability is so important to success all my coaching packagesinclude unlimited Whatsapp coaching in between sessions so I can make sure I am there to support my clients every single day.

BONUS STRATEGY:
If you'd like to discuss and learn even more about The Law of Attraction and Manifesting join me LIVE today (Tuesday, Feb. 19th) at 1 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Now, I would love to know, have you ever used the Law of Attraction to manifest something amazing into your life? 

Hit the reply button and let me know. 

Wishing you so much love!

Steph
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Is Perfectionism Holding You Back From Success? 🙈🙅

Hello Beauty!

Years ago, when I had severe anxiety, was completely broke, lonely, and lost… I held myself back so much because I thought I had to be perfect in order to be worthy. 

I allowed perfectionism to stop me from going after my dreams. I thought I had to be perfectly thin, perfectly dressed, perfectly smart, perfectly skilled, perfectly well-spoken, perfectly *fill in the blank* in order to be successful. 

No wonder I was so scared to move forward! Can you relate? 

You know what's interesting? According to the latest research, perfectionism has been on a steady rise over the last 3 decades. 

Some experts believe this increase is due to the amount of time we now spend on social media looking at people's "highlight reels."

These posts only show people and their families on their best days, with the best angles, best lighting, best outfits, best makeup, best hair, cleanest rooms, and are usually filtered to death. 

Even though most people aren't posting the true reality of their lives, these highlight reel posts are having a negative affect on our mindset and what we believe we need to be, do, and have in order to be worthy. 

Here is the problem with perfectionism. It is holding people back from living their dream lives. 

So, what actually is perfectionism anyway?

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The definition of perfectionism is: The refusal to accept any standard short of perfection.

This refusal to accept anything other than perfection can express itself in many ways. You can be highly critical of yourself and, in turn, others too.

This can put a big strain on our relationships. When we place such high standards and expectations on others it can cause them to feel as though they are constantly walking on eggshells.  

Perfectionism can also be caused or reinforced by how you were raised, where you work, who you hang out with most, where you spend your spare time (like Facebook and Instagram), and also your personality. 

Interestingly, people with higher levels of anxiety tend to suffer from perfectionism more so than those who are anxiety free. (Anyone else raising their hand?? lol)

One of the biggest reasons people struggle with perfectionism (and one that is very common in the beautiful women I have the pleasure of coaching is)… Fear of failure. 

This is really a mindset issue. People who have a deep fear of failure view anything less than perfect as a failure, therefore, they avoid taking chances or going after their dreams.

Basically, they hold themselves back from greatness over an unrealistic belief that they have to be perfect in order to be successful.

Perfectionism also causes another nasty habit… procrastination. (Another topic we will be covering in depth in the Mindset By Design for Her private FB Group,click here to join in on the conversation.)

When you feel like you have to be perfect, it can make it really hard for you to want to get started. As a matter of fact, it causes your brain to go into analysis paralysis. 

Luckily, there are a few simple strategies we can implement to stop perfectionism from holding us back from the success we want and deserve. 

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How to Release Perfectionism for Good in 4 Simple Steps

1. Test it Out
If you have lived most of your life as a perfectionist, transforming into a free-spirited “this is good enough” kind of person overnight isn't realistic. This is why it is smarter to start with baby steps. For example, you can send an email without proofreading it 20 times first. Or you can go to a networking event even if you feel like you don't have the perfect outfit to wear or the perfect thing to say, reminding yourself before each "trial run" that perfection doesn't exist. 

Once you get comfortable dipping your toes in the “this is good enough/I am good enough” water, it will get easier and easier to release your need for perfection more and more and more. 

2. Change Your Perception 
Perfectionists can often hold the bar so high for themselves that is hard to know what “good enough” actually is. If this is you, what you can do is think to yourself, what would I tell my coworker, friend, son/daughter, or loved one about this? Would you call them too fat to speak in front of a crowd? Would you tell them they weren't perfect enough to go after their dreams? Probably not. 

Understanding when it would be “good enough” for someone else can help you to determine whether or not you are starting to fall into perfectionistic tendencies.

3. Set Time Limits 
Perfectionism can cause you to do 2 things:

#1 Procrastinate and do nothing or
#2 Make you take WAY too long to complete things so nothing ever gets done.

I currently provide mindset coaching to a large group of high-level entrepreneurs in the health space. Everyone from chiropractors, naturopaths, doctors, and dietician who are all launching online courses and practices. Some of these practitioners launch in 3 weeks while some are 12 months in and still haven’t launched. 

This is why, every chance I get, I tell the people who are taking longer to put a time limit on all the work they need to do in order to get their program launched. 

For example, if it is taking them a whole day or even a week to complete one exercise that is a red flag that perfectionism is kicking in. When I meet with these clients I always recommend that they give themselves a time limit for each task and that is the same advice I want to give to you. 

4. Schedule Your Perfectionism
For some of us, having a high standard is just in our DNA which, as we now know, can be a hindrance to our success, however, there is are different instances when your high bar can be used in your favor. So for example, if there is a task that is very detail oriented, numbers based, or if you are doing a project for a client, this can be a great time to strategically allow your high standards to shine brightly.

The important part here is that you allow yourself to, at the same time, loosen up on other things and also implement the previous strategies above too. 

DONE > PERFECT
Here is the truth, there is no such thing as perfect. It simply doesn’t exist. So if we keep aiming for perfection we will get stuck staying in the same place, never moving forward. This is why done will always beat perfect every time. 

If you'd like to discuss and learn even more about Perfectionism and how it can have a negative affect on entrepreneurs join me LIVE today (Tuesday, February 12th) at 2 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

Now I want to know, have you ever let perfectionism hold you back from greatness or going after your dreams? Hit the reply button and let me know.

Wishing you so much love!

See you later today in the group

Steph
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Feel More Productive in Coffee Shops? Here’s why ☕💥

Hi my gorgeous friend! 

I am sitting here at Armature Works in Tampa, sipping on a Yerba Mate tea, typing this blog and thought… 

Have you ever noticed how you feel way more productive and focused when you work from a coffee shop? 

I know I seem to accomplish more in two or three hours at a coffee shop than I do in an entire day working from home.

It's important to point out that I usually drink decaf coffee and tea so it’s not because of the caffeine. 

So if extra caffeine isn't the reason why most people feel more productive and focused at coffee shops then what is it, and more importantly, how can we cultivate the same focus and drive when we are at home or in the office?

Keep reading to learn the 3 key reasons you are so much more productive when you work from a coffee shop and 3 strategies you can use to enhance your productivity no matter where to you are. 

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1. Your Brain Seeks Out Novelty
The human brain is constantly seeking novelty, in other words, your subconscious mind is always on the lookout for things that are new and exciting. This makes perfect sense when you consider that our DNA and brain are still wired the same as our prehistoric ancestors. These people were hunter-gatherers roaming the earth for 1,000’s years. They were rarely in the same place for more than a few weeks or months. Talk about living a novel life! Life for them was different on a daily basis. Different is what our brain is wired to seek out, so when we don’t have it, our brain gets bored and unmotivated.

Another reason your brain likes new and different things is because when you are presented with something novel, your brain releases the neurotransmitter dopamine AKA the “feel good” chemical. Recent studies show that dopamine doesn't just make you feel good, it is also closely tied to motivation. This explains why getting yourself into a new environment, like a coffee shop, enhances your motivation, creativity, productivity, and happiness. 
 

1a. How To Make This Work For You
Basically, when you get your butt out of the house or out of your usual working space your brain really likes it. You can recreate this by taking your laptop outside or by switching up your workspace. If you work from home, move away from your desk. Sit at the kitchen table, on the couch, in the spare bedroom, or on the patio. If you work in an office, take your laptop outside. If that isn't an option for you, switch up your desk. Move your seat to the other side or buy new pictures and plants to create a new fresh feeling for your brain.


2. Some Routines Reduce Productivity 
As we learned last week some routines can really enhance productivity.  Some routines, however, do the complete opposite. For example, if you get into a routine of getting sucked down the Youtube, Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter rabbit holes for hours every day instead of doing your work… that is a problem.

Just like unhealthy habits, unhealthy routines are easy to accidentally fall into but they aren’t as easy to stop. Our environment has a lot to do with our daily routines. For example, let’s say you’ve started a daily routine of going down the social media rabbit hole for hours every day and this new habit starts as soon as you sit on the couch or in the breakroom to eat lunch.

Basically this negative scrolling routine has been anchored (an NLP term used when neurology gets connected to a trigger) to your couch or breakroom. This means that the second you take yourself away from your couch or breakroom and into a new environment, like a coffee shop, that set of neurology won't loop and you’ll do work instead of getting sucked into social media.

2a. How To Make This Work For You
So if you have found that you have accidentally developed a negative routine that is draining your productivity you need to first acknowledge you have fallen into a negative routine. Once you admit it is a problem you can start to plan ways to break the pattern (which is really just looping neurology).

You can schedule in a cellphone-free walk, you can book in calls with friends and family, you can set an alarm to give yourself a specific amount of scrolling time before you have to put the phone away. If the routine, habit, or looping negative thoughts you have fallen into have become more than you can handle or break on your own, hire a coach you can trust to help you get you back on track and moving towards your hopes, wishes, and dreams. 

3. Your Intention, That’s What It’s All About
There is yet another reason why we feel so much more productive at coffee shops. It’s because we simply set the intention that we are going to be super productive before we head out. In other words, we make the conscious decision before we leave, “I am going to get a ton of work done today.” and so that is exactly what happens.

In the book, The Intention Experiment, by Lynne McTaggart,  William A. Tiller, a professor Stanford University states, “For the last 400 years, an unstated assumption of science is that human intention cannot affect what we call physical reality. Our experimental research of the past decade shows that, for today’s world and under the right conditions, this assumption is no longer correct.”

3a. How To Make This Work For You
As you can see, intention setting is very powerful and the best part is, it is easy to implement into your daily routine. In the morning, before you start work you can set some intentions for the day. These intentions can be about anything from work, to how you want to feel, to your personal life. Below are some example of some of the intentions I have set for my day in the past: 

  • I will allow today to be easy.

  • I will understand that I am fully supported by the universe/divine/source/spirit.

  • I will choose to understand that everything (even the bad things) are happening in my favor. 

  • I will intentionally smile at strangers. 

  • I will count my blessing and say thank you often

  • I will fully clean out my email inbox today. 

  • I will complete all the forms for my dog's appointments. 

  • I will get half my taxes done today. 

As you can see there are many reasons why we are more productive in coffee shops. Now you have the knowledge you need in order to bring that increase in motivation with you everywhere you go. Pretty cool right?

Want to discuss and learn even more about "The Coffee Shop Affect?" Join me LIVE today (Tuesday, Feb 5th) at 12:30 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live.

Can't wait to hang out with you live and in person inside the group!

Also, I'd love to hear what your favorite tidbit of knowledge is from today's topic. Hit the comment button and let me know :)

Much love, 

Steph
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Too Many Decisions Hurt Your Brain?? Welcome to Decision Fatigue 😓

The second you wake up, the decision making starts…  to press the snooze button or not, what to wear, what to eat, what to pack for lunch, what to pack your kids for lunch… the list goes on and on and on.

Research shows that we make an average of 35,000 decisions every day! Making so many decisions can be exhausting, so exhausting in fact, it has its own name: Decision Fatigue.

This term was created by Roy F. Baumeister, a world-renowned social psychologist and author of, Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength. According to Baumeister, long bouts of decision making tires your brain, in the same way, a long bout of exercise tires your muscles. 

This phenomenon doesn’t just make you tired. Decision fatigue has a negative affect on your self-control, willpower, and productivity which can lead to a slew of negative consequences.

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For example, you might get annoyed and lose your temper at a loved one if they ask you a question when you feel decision fatigue. Or you might say “I don’t care, you decide.” when you really should care and be involved in the decision, you just don't have the energy to do so. 

During decision fatigue, your brain might short circuit completely causing you to freeze and make no decision at all. This is sometimes called analysis paralysis. 

Decision fatigue is particularly troublesome in the digital age because we have so much information being thrown at us every second of the day. This means our brain is constantly getting bombarded with information to make decisions on: to click or not to click, to scroll or not to scroll, to buy or not to buy. 

Here’s the good news, there are a few strategies you can use to combat decision fatigue especially during a decision-heavy day. 

Keep reading to learn the 5 simple strategies (plus bonus strategy!) you can use to combat decision fatigue. 

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Here are your 5 strategies, plus one extra for good measure :)

1. Prioritize Quiet Time
Have you ever noticed how your best ideas come when you are brushing your teeth, when you’re in the shower, or while you're on a leisurely walk? That is because these activities take no conscious effort. This means your conscious mind (the thinking/logical part of your brain) can take a break. This allows you to tap into your subconscious mind more easily. 

This is where all your new creative knowledge lives that gets blocked by all the conscious work your mind has to do every day. Taking time to quiet down the conscious mind will work wonders for your stress levels (decision fatigue increases stress) and can actually improve the neurological connections in your brain. This is also why meditation and POSITIVE AFFIRMATION TRACKS can be so powerful. They give your conscious "thinking" mind the break it needs. 

2. Create Habits and Routines to Decrease Decision Making
Ever wonder why geniuses like Steve Jobs, creator of Apple, wore the same black turtleneck, round glasses, and jeans every single day? He didn’t do this just because he really liked black turtlenecks. He did this because it gave his brain extra energy to spend on more important decisions, like building a multi-billion dollar company.  As a matter of fact, Baumeister found that the most successful people in the world combat decision fatigue by developing habits and routines like this. 

You can help combat decision fatigue in your life by creating a calendar of breakfasts, dinners, deciding what to wear to work the night before, and scheduling in quiet time every single day. This will give your brain a break from decision making so it has the energy for important things. 

3. Chunk Your Day
Chunking or batching your work is another way to combat decision fatigue. What this means is to block off specific days and/or times for certain work. For example, you can book in specific times to check your emails every day. You can choose specific days to work on certain tasks like Monday can be an article writing day and Tuesday can be a day you see clients while Friday can be your catch up day. Chunking your work in this way will cut down on the decisions you have to make because every hour of every day you’ll know what you are supposed to be focusing on. 

4. Give Yourself a Deadline
Setting deadlines for your decision making will stop you from going into analysis paralysis which is a huge energy drainer. Generally, the more time you give yourself to make a decision the longer you will spin your wheels. Setting deadlines also gives your brain an intention to focus on which will help you make a decision quicker. (Next week we will learn just how powerful intention setting is so stay tuned next Tuesday for that email.)

5. Make Sure to Bring Snacks
This one might sound funny but it’s actually super important. Not only is your brain’s main fuel source glucose but it has been scientifically proven that hunger can cause people to make impulsive decisions. What’s really interesting is that the hormone ghrelin (which is produced by your stomach when you are hungry) has been shown to decrease impulse control.

Having a healthy snack handy during long meetings or when you know it’s going to be a while until your next meal can give your brain and body the fuel it needs to make decisions more easily causing you less decision fatigue.

BONUS STRATEGY:
If you'd like to discuss and learn even more about Decision Fatigue and how it affects entrepreneurs join me LIVE today (Tuesday, Jan. 29nd) at 1:15 pm EST. All you have to do is CLICK HERE to join the private Mindset By Design for Her Facebook group where I will be going live. Can't wait to hang out with you there!

At the end of the day, there is no way you'll ever be able to stop making decisions but you can use these 5 strategies to help stop decision fatigue before it causes negative consequences in your life. 

Has decision fatigue ever had a negative affect in your life or in your business? 

Leave a comment and let me know.

Wishing you so much love!

Steph
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My #1 hack to feel confident around anyone, anyplace, anytime.

Hi Gorgeous, 

You know that feeling you get when you go to a networking event or when you are around a bunch of people you don't know?

Like you have to prepare a synopsis of all the amazing things you are doing in business and in life?

I used to feel like this all the time. 

Like I had to be so INTERESTING to be worthy. 

It was like I thought I had to EARN my place in the world. 

This put sooooo much pressure on me when I would go to networking events or just out in public in general. Especially when I had severe social anxiety. 

Now I understand that, in social situations, it is so much better to be INTERESTED rather than INTERESTING. 

Watch the video below or keep reading to understand what I mean. 

When you approach people with a smile and genuine heartfelt interest...in them, what they do, what they love, what their hopes wishes and dreams are...

It also allows the other person to let their light shine. This feels really good to both people. Win/Win!

This also releases the pressure of feeling the need to "perform" or "be on show" by telling everyone about yourself. 

This is the quickest way for you to build massive rapport with people too which is an amazing skill to have in business and in life. 

Finally, it is also important for me to point out that you were BORN WORTHY. You do not have to prove yourself to anyone. 

Simply being there, with the beautiful light and love you bring to the room, is enough to "earn" your place in the world. 

When you bring your full and best self, you are a gift and a prize to everyone you meet. 

Always remember that Goddess. 

Much Love, 

Steph
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